How timely to read your blog post. I had just finished Stumbling on Happiness and have picked up Vital Lies, Simple Truths by Daniel Goleman. His book is about our mental ‘blindspots’ and the simple truths we tell ourselves to avoid seeing things that might cause us anxiety. He has a terrific quote from R.D. Lang from Knots:

The range of what we think and do
is limited by what we fail to notice.
And because we fail to notice that
we fail to notice
there is little we can do
to change
until we fail to notice
how failing to notice
shapes our thoughts and deeds.

Amen
/Bradley